Some Things Can Change, One Thing Cannot

Sunday, 1st February 2026

Regular readers of my blog will be aware that I changed church in 2018 and then changed Care Group ("CG") in 2022.

I also changed party-affiliation. I quit being a member of the incumbent party in 2017 after they changed the constitution to prevent Dr Tan Cheng Bock from becoming President, and now resonate most with the party he subsequently formed on 28 March 2019.

You can read about those 3 major decisions here

Why I Changed Church: 

My Journey of Grace Through Faith 

Why I Changed CG: 

The Covenant-Keeping God

Why I Changed Party-Affiliation:
Your Vote Is Secret, Unless You Choose to Reveal It

I am now a semi-retired business owner, but during those 30 years that I was actively employed out there in the marketplace, I changed job every 3-4 years; the longest I had ever worked in any organisation was 11 years.

Well, it is really no problem to God if we change church, or CG, or party affiliation, or even change job, for that matter.  There is a season for everything under heaven, and when that season is over, we move on, oftentimes with God's fullest blessings and approval.

But there is one area that we are not supposed to change, and that is being married to our spouse.

As far as churches, CGs or jobs are concerned, we did not sign any binding covenant with the other party.  Yes, we may have signed some sort of agreement or contract, but that was all that it was.

But when it comes to our marriage, there was a blood-shedding promise that we made to our would-be spouse, what effectively was a covenant that was cut before the Lord.  We swore that for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part.  And the officiating pastor would typically quote Matt 19:6 / Mark 10:9 that "what God had joined together, let not men rend asunder".

Hence, the title of today's post.

Yes, the extra-marital affair that Melvin Lim had with Grayce Tan, is sad because he was a bad testimony to his non-Christians subordinates and others out there in the world.

But what is even sadder is that he had betrayed his wife and stumbled his children.  Yes, although they were not Christians when they first got married, after they became Christians, he would have been made aware of the sanctity of the vows he had exchanged with his wife.

In these last days, the devil is working overtime to destroy marriages and families. That is why I am grateful that our church has been organising regular Marriage Retreats for existing married couples to rediscover their love for each other, and to renew the vows they made to each other.

Last year, from 9th to 11th October 2025, a total of 150 couples attended the Retreat held at JB Renaissance Hotel and we were sub-divided into 25 groups of 6 couples each.  My wife and I were assigned to Group 11, led by Vincent and Faith.

Group 11, led by Vincent and Faith

Group photo of the 150 participating couples

And just last night, we got together for fellowship over a sumptuous dinner at The Peranakan located somewhere in Bukit Merah.  May this be the first of many more get-togethers to come!

Here is the video montage to commemorate that wonderful occasion.

 

And Melvin Lim, if you happen to be reading this, God loves you so, so much and that is why He did not want you to continue to settle for anything less than His best for you, your beloved wife and the 4 offspring He has blessed both of you with.  He wanted to put a stop to what the devil was using Grayce Tan to do to you and your family. 

He restored King David after his adultery with Bathsheba, and He can and definitely will restore you too.  Do seek out your pastors and leaders in Faith Methodist Church, and go attend a marriage retreat, seminar, or something of its equivalence there, if they have one.

If they do not, our church (ie. New Creation Church), should be organising another one sometime this year, and you and your wife are most welcome and encouraged to sign up for it.  I understand however that both of you need to be members first, so do change church if the Lord prompts you to do so.