Two Heads Are *Not* Better Than One

Saturday, 21st February 2026

I start off today's blog entry with a picture of a double-headed snake.  Read on to know why.

Five days ago, I sent the following to various contacts on Whatsapp

Womenfolk, please don't crucify me. I'm merely the messenger...

A dear brother recently shared a "revelation" from Revelations regarding Christ and the church.

He said that whenever he had an argument with his wife, she would always quote Eph 5:25 to him about how he should love her as Christ loves the church blah blah blah.

Getting tired of being constantly nagged, he decided to quote back to her Rev 2-3, where Christ had some rather strong words of correction for 6 of the 7 churches.

He went further to tell her that the passage is not only New Covenant but eschatological (end-time) as well, which makes it doubly applicable.

He said Christ definitely loves His church, but the way He expresses that love may not be what the church expects or wants to hear...

His wife was left speechless initially. Then after a long pause, she said "You don't anyhow quote scriptures to me. Even the devil misquoted Ps 91 when he tempted Jesus in the wilderness."

Thankfully, both of them had a good laugh after that, and he was not banished from the bedroom.

Menfolk, do try out this experiment with your missus and let me know the outcome.

If you end up kana sleep outside in the corridor, I will pray for a pillar of fire to appear to keep you warm at night.

I received a couple of responses, which I reproduce in full below but with their identities masked for the sake of their own safety haha.

There was radio silence from the rest, for obvious reasons :p

Well, coincidentally, today's morning devotional was on the topic of "correction" and somehow it brought to mind Rev 2-3!

In summary, because God loves, He corrects.

I humbly submit to you that the marital relationship between a husband and a wife is a shadow and a mystery, the substance and revelation of which is the relationship between Jesus Christ and His bride, the church.  The sooner wives understand that this is *THE* biblical design and foundation of a solid, godly marriage, the better.  We are not "equals", or worse still, the wife is not the head of the husband.

There is a saying that "two heads are better than one".  That is not found in the bible, and definitely does not apply in a marital union.  Christ is the head of the Church => the husband is the head of his wife.

There cannot be two heads. Look at that picture of the double-headed snake above, and you will get my drift.

As husbands, we ought to love our wives as Christ loves the church, and yes, that includes gently correcting them with our words, like how Jesus corrected the churches.

Having said that, we as husbands must also understand the huge commitment and responsibility placed upon us as the head.  God has put us "in-charge", as it were.  He held Adam solely responsible for Eve listening to the serpent and partaking of the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, even though he was passive throughout the entire engagement.

And this concept of being in-charge and responsible does not just apply to the marital relationship, but extends also to the offspring that come forth from that marital union.  We, as fathers, have to be present and active in the lives of our children, especially during their formative years.  Too many cases of rebellious sons and wayward daughters can be traced back to one thing and one thing alone: paternal absenteeism.  Ps Prince himself attested to that in many of his sermons.

Having said that, those of us whose children have stopped attending church, or are mixing with bad company, please do not feel condemned.  Continue to pray for them and know that God is more concerned about their spiritual well-being than we can ever be.  Hold fast to Acts 16:31 where God promises that as long as one person in the household is saved, the entire household will be saved too!

Our God is a God of redemption and restoration.  No matter what the devil has done, God can and will reverse it and cause all things to work together for our good.  He will make all things beautiful in His time. Amen?